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Away-to-be is a paradigm shift in human wellbeing. It's a reassessment of everything that humanity already knows about wellbeing, so it is entirely well supported. The result though, is powerful because its surprisingly simple, scientifically based, and guaranteed to work.

Away-to-be doesn't require you to 'memorize' anything as such. It's an understanding, a revelation if you will. One that raises you up, into becoming your most wonderful, successful and enthusiastic self.

We're going to start now, by quickly looking at wellbeing advice past and present.

One of our earliest teachers of self-optimization was the Buddha. He advised that to live our most powerful lives, we should 'relax and release'. That is, to not become entangled with unexpected events and outcomes. To calmly keep our minds centered on 'simple positive progress'. Lets make a note that 'Relax and release' is a position of 'zero reactivity'.

A few hundred years later Jesus began his teaching. He advised us all to recognize and live by, the love (or God) in our hearts. His message was about kindness, forgiveness, and to turn the other cheek. Once again, 'turning the other cheek' is a strong message about 'zero reactivity'.

Psychology also echoes this. It uses 'talk therapy', to help people detach from past confusion.

And lastly, our modern wellbeing coaches suggest we simply 'overcome' our natural self-doubt. That we can 'feel the fear, but do it anyway'.

Clearly, all information tells us that to live our most fulfilling lives, we need to understand and accept our natural reactivity, and reliably disengage its effects.

Welcome to Away-to-be. This is all human wisdom reorganized into reliable teachable truth.

Psychology has given us the Fear code: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. We recognize it as true. It’s written into our DNA. But what does the Fear code influence? It changes our primary code, which can only be called the Love code.

Imagine the Love code as a set of sliders, all turned fully on. Every lifeform has this. A caterpillar doesn't go for food half-heartedly; it wants it with gusto! The Love code drives us with energy toward anything good in life. The Love code sets these sliders to 100% from the start. They hold the qualities of wellbeing that we all desire. It's also the essence of who we really are. Think about baptisms, weddings and funerals. Love really is at our core; it's our human identity.

Biologically, when we manage to clear the fear built up in our hearts, what’s left is pure love and enthusiasm. This fits perfectly with the Christian tradition of 'finding God'. There are famous examples of people making remarkable and immediate positive changes. You see, when we release ourselves from fear, it optimizes us in a surprisingly effortless way. It transforms our thoughts and actions. The Love code alone allows us to walk the Earth with calm, with confidence, and with a dignified sense of self-awareness.

But don't be fooled. To walk the Earth without fear, is not a soft thing. It's the trait of extraordinary people like Nelson Mandela, Viktor Frankl, and Elon Musk. Think of your own favorite examples.

Let’s now revisit our secondary Fear code. From the time we were babies, it’s been collecting all of our unexpected, confusing experiences and building a “framework of fear” to help us learn about the world and protect ourselves from danger.

But here’s the thing. When we were toddlers, we had no way of truly grasping the complexity of the modern world. As we grew through childhood and our teen years, countless misunderstandings stacked up, forming what should be called a “false framework of fear.” It made us more cautious, skeptical, suspicious, and even cynical. Traits that obviously show up in our personalities. Psychologically, we label this as anxiety and depression. These less appealing qualities can make it hard for us, to connect with others or move forward. Far too often, we're left feeling alone and lost in a kind of metaphorical darkness.

Now this is important: As adults, we often keep believing that the false framework of fear is correct. We tell ourselves that it protects us and makes us clever, but that’s the big delusion. It actually convinces us to argue and turn away help. Sadly, our natural ability to feel joy and live a fulfilling life, gradually gets dismissed as nothing more than a childish dream. Watch any relationship-based reality TV series to see how the reactivity generated by our false framework of fear ruins everything we actually want.

Here is a new clarification: the false framework of fear is a lie. Its false! And, it destroys all of the powerful traits of the Love code.

Here is another useful understanding about how the fear code affects us. Firstly, it induces panic. The survival instinct causes what we might call a 'full body reaction'. In this state, the thinking sensible mind is not used. Its offline. Unavailable.

Even worse, the framework of fear is built entirely on wrong information. Think of a child having a tantrum. Mother is busy doing something important, but the child suddenly feels abandoned and this causes a panic reaction. A child has zero chance of being able to understand the complex modern world. Its fear of abandonment grows entirely from a misunderstanding. The false framework of fear builds upon itself over years of confusing events. Even in our teen years, we are not equipped to understand the complex modern social world. We easily become confused and heartbroken. Our framework of fear is entirely formed due to our own lack of understanding.

There is one more thing about fear, that we will teach our young: Our human Fear code causes reactions 'fast and slow'. Fast reactions are tantrums and outbursts. Slow reactions are moods and judgements. Think about it. When someone is in the grip of a mood, the sensible thinking mind is offline. They cannot be reached with a common sense approach. We must wait until the bad feeling subsides. Also, consider your own judgements. We immediately become angry if we see a child tag a wall. But with further thought, that is, if we turn our minds back on manually as it were, we can recall how we ourselves once did stupid things as a reaction to a confused time in our life. Listen to this part of the video again.

Understanding this about ourselves is a powerful way to regain self control. It reminds us to turn our brains back on, and be sure of our judgements before we ourselves become lost in a body reaction. Its a lesson about thinking twice. We will teach it by adding to the fear code. From now on, it will be fight flight freeze fawn and formulate. And we'll teach the young, that formulate is the one humans always use.

Wisdom tells us that as adults, we should remove fear from our hearts. And that once we do, what’s left is love and mental freedom. In that space, we naturally become thoughtful, considerate, capable, admired, and respected. The question is, how do we make it happen?

All we really need are two things. First, an understanding of how reactivity works in our bodies. Then, we apply our most proven method to replace the false framework of fear. It’s like performing precise surgery that clears away our layers of mental confusion in just one weekend. And don’t worry, rejecting fear won’t make you gullible or foolish. You’ll still have enough of the fear code to keep you from doing anything unwise. This short process, just reinstates the strength in your heart. Immediately, you see it working. You become self-assured, excited, relieved, and confidently grow into the life you dream of.

Let's now cover the process. You can do the steps yourself over a weekend. First we overwrite our hearts, or subconscious minds, with a fresh Love code. We do that by defining Love as four other words that our minds can better understand. Kindness, Forgiveness, Acceptance and Gratitude. This is called the Kfag model. We use deep thought to 'install' each of these 'blocks of gold'. This 'installation', is the most important part of the process.

It does have historic support. Christianity calls it 'Confirmation'. As adults, Christians are asked to confirm their allegiance with the Love or God within us. Christians use the word prayer; Buddhists use the word meditation. We can use those words, or reflection, self-hypnosis, or deep thought. It's all the same. But everybody needs to reinstall the Love code to become free of their own set of confusions, and regain a clear enthusiastic mindset. And don't worry, enough Fear code residue remains to keep you from doing anything silly.

A full Away-to-be installation guide is in an earlier video on this channel. Ill link it in the description. It uses AI voicing to make it easy on the ear.

Let's assume now, that you have successfully re-identified with Love. We notice then, that the way we walk, talk dress and think has also been strongly affected by the Fear code. That identity no longer suits who we are becoming. So we identify and change the easy things first. This stage is called Communication recovery. How we communicate with ourselves and others is noticed and amended.

Having reinstated Love as our core identity, we now have a really strong impetus to ignore any thoughts that originate from our old false framework of fear. This is now a mechanically reliable action we take. We make all the good choices now, and with enthusiasm. Making strong changes is not like hard work anymore. Its actually a fun challenge. Our new knowledge about reactivity allows us to see it in ourselves and stomp it out like an unwelcome critter. We feel self control. And self mastery is coming. Life begins to look exciting and full of opportunity.

Your new understanding about reactivity gives you new ways to think about your own, and other peoples, behavior. You have 'i see all' moments. Your understanding of life reliably works, and allows you to see the truth beneath the confused states displayed by others.

Installing the Kfag model is like giving yourself an identity reset. You then try to remove all traces of the old fear code from your inner and outer behaviors. At this point, you begin to ask 'if i no longer want to behave like i used to, how should i be?'. The answer is ... you do what works! There are 7 handpicked videos at my site instantpersonalwellbeing.com that you can watch to inspire you and get the information you need. Open a desktop notepad and write down any ideas that seem relevant to your growth. Your notepad or journal keeps you on a strong growth path. You can write notes to yourself to tilt your autopilot one way or the other. Also, you plans for your life. Write down what you want to achieve over the next few months. One day, you may feel down for no particular reason. You may feel like the process didnt work. But think, you have been checking your journal every morning. It cannot be wrong! Just accept that sometimes the body feels a certain kind of way, and maybe its ok to just go easy on yourself for the day.

A simple truth is that if anything upsets you, its the false framework of fear coming back to life. Just turn on your mind, and think the situation through to truth. Then either say something helpful, or just accept that 'it is what it is'.

Sometimes, we catch ourselves reacting. We notice quickly because we're no longer used to being upset in any way. We say something like 'im sorry, I reacted. That was my fault'. The upset is immediately extinguished, and a better bond is made. If you have a partner, you can both be aware of this superpower, and enjoyable live a life without hours, days, or months of upset and pain.

Another useful rule is that when we speak about others, we do it as if they are right there listening too. It feels very wise, and things wont come back to bite you later.

Basically, every few hours ask yourself if you or your mind has been behaving well or badly. You will feel extra-proud to notice how your life is now yours to enjoy.

We get to live in a way where we don't have to care what other people think. We are always golden. Being calm & loving is easiest to remember, enjoyable to do & the only thing that works. It may seem polyianna to some, but it is strongly effective and comes from a place of real inner beauty and love. This is your authentic self.

Since we have abandoned our old fear-based thoughts, we don't mess with skepticism, cynicism, and judgment like we used to. It is what it is. We don't waste our energy whining about it with friends or in our heads. People who whine are showing that they are still situationally reactive beings. We are all on our own journey to higher awareness.

For some of us, it can be difficult to know how to actually think before we speak.

It is helpful here to bring back the word formality. When we maintain a touch of formality, we have a little separation. We're automatically calm and considerate.

A touch of formality is how we honor people by slowing down and controlling ourselves.

It is not us being fake because we do it with authentic open hearts.

Formal calm is us at our very best and most attractive.

At this point, you may be young at self leadership, but you will receive the respect of anyone already. When you are behaving as a person of higher awareness, you deserve and will get the respect of the highest ranking people in any room you enter.

In any task, whether you are an athlete, a creative, a carer or administrator, you turn up each day ready, untroubled, and capable of your best work.

Achieving this is a moment of deep pride. It is the achievement of our lives.

Our old self would have behaved with some kind of fear reaction energy.

We realize that if we just calmly do the next right thing, that we are golden.

Old stress and repeating negative thoughts are not something we can wish to go back to because we can see now that they were not true at all.

There is nothing at all to regret.

If someone asks you if you are enlightened, the answer is a happy and clear yes.

If you are uncertain, these truths will fall into place really soon as you experience trusting them. Otherwise, go back to find out what you missed.

Please also watch a video of mine about Love = Energy. It brings our identity of Love, back to the beginning of the universe in a true and teachable way. You come to realize that away-to-be works for everyone, in every country. It makes sense of our history and unifies religion and science. As a species we get to progress in the strongest way. Noone gets left behind.